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  • Writer's pictureMatt Beaney


On Sunday we continued with our series on discipleship from The Sermon on the Mount. In a world that has completely lost all sense regarding sexual relationships, It’s vital that we learn God’s attitude.

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)

Jesus is showing us the ongoing relevance of the Old Testament as He quotes the seventh commandment from Exodus 20:14. However, it seems that the religious teachers were lowering the standard to that of actual deed alone. However, heart obedience to God’s law requires complete purity in thought, heart and action.

This has relevance to all of us whether we are married or single. None of us is free from the temptation to impure looking and acting.

God's command remains in place.


All sex and impure looking outside of marriage is sin. If we are married, we are to only have eyes for our spouse. If we have sinned, forgiveness is available, and we all need God’s forgiveness, for surely we are all guilty of lust!

Repentance is also required. We need to change our thinking and acting concerning sexual purity. How do you need to respond?

It would be extremely helpful if you shared your thoughts with a close friend. Bringing things into the light is powerful. To this end, are you in a ‘Running Partnership’ - A group of 2-3 brothers or sisters that support one another? To start a running partnership, go to,




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On Sunday we continued our 'Sent' discipleship series by looking at Jesus' teaching regarding adultery and sexual purity.

You have to agree that our culture is very confused and confusing regarding sexual ethics. The things we are encouraged to watch are saturated with sexually explicit imagery; whilst this is so, we are also told to respect and not objectify one another!

It's important that we understand Jesus' teaching on sexual purity and that we help to teach others where we can, particularly if we are parents.

Jesus taught,

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” (Matthew 5:27-30)

i) Impurity is costly

Firstly, Jesus is teaching that the command not to commit adultery - to be faithful to our spouse - is still in place. We are to do the costly work of doing all that we can to build healthy marriages.

Secondly, Impurit is costly in a number of ways:

i) Your marriage will be weakened

ii) You will lose the respect of your spouse

iii) It damages our relationship with God. He is angry with our sin - it grieves the Holy Spirit and we will receive His discipline.

iv) If you are single, it will damage your ability to make a commitment to someone and it pollutes your friendships.

v) Impurity costs a broken society - Impurity leads to ever increasing harassment and sexually deviant behaviour.

vi) It will send us to hell if we are unrepentant - impurity can reveal that we are not really a Christian.

ii) Purity is costly

Jesus' words about losing a hand or eye reveal that purity will be costly to us.

To have sexually pure relationships is not easy. You will be fighting against the tide of culture, the flesh and the devil. However, Purity is precious and so is worth the hard work.

i) You’ll be mocked - It’s costly to keep because your friends may mock you for still being a virgin and for believing in no sex before marriage.

ii) Breaking an addiction is hard - Purity is costly because impurity is addictive.

iii) You lose what you like - Purity is costly, it’s like cutting off what is valuable.

iv) Purity is costly in that it takes time and effort to invest in your marriage or friendships.

iv) However, purity is costly because it is precious. It comes with eternal worth and gain. Every area of your life will be blessed through purity. And it comes with the great promise,

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” (Matthew 5:8)

Discussion questions

1. Did God speak to you about anything in particular from Sunday's message or the blogs this week?

2. How would you define purity and impurity in the context of Jesus' teaching here in Matthew 5?

3. What does Psalm 119:9-11, teach us about how one can be pure? How are you, or could you put the principles of Psalm 119:9-11 into practice?

4. How does investing in good Christian friends help us in our pursuit of purity?

5. Are you in a 'Running Partners' group? Quickly look at the link below to find out what these are and how to start them

6. Do you want prayer for anything?

Serving, Investing and inviting

The way we seek purity in our relationships is a witness to the world. Let's take a moment to share and pray about how we are serving, investing and inviting into our community.

1) Who has God put into your life that we could pray for together?

2) How are you planning to serve invest and invite?

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