• Matt Beaney

#308 – GO AND BE RECONCILED (17/3/21)


“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. Truly I tell you, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny.” (Matthew 5:23-26)

In this text, the first example of a broken relationship is that between ‘your brother or sister’. We can fall out with members of our church family.


The second example is that of an ‘adversary’. This is most likely referring to relationships with those who are outside of the church.


Christians are to do all that they can to be peacemakers in every kind of relationship that they have. Within the church, our families, with our neighbours, our work, school or university colleagues…we are to do all that we can to create peaceful relationships. James says of us,

'My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.' (James 1:19-20)

Being a good listener is vital if we are to avoid ungodly anger. Seeking to understand another’s point of view helps us to disagree amicably.


Being slow to speak and careful with our words is another attribute of a peacemaker. Try to end a conversation if you feel anger growing in you. Never post anything on social media or send an email when you are angry.


Our aim as Christians is always to help people. We use our words as tools of service. We are not those who have unhelpful debates. We endeavour to hold to the truth that 'human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.’


RESPONSE

Do we have any unresolved broken relationships? Have you done all that you can to be reconciled?” Of course, our efforts will not always be received. Let’s pray out of and try to do what God teaches us,

‘If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.’ (Romans 12:18)

COMMUNITY GROUP STUDY - PURSUE LOVE AND PUT AWAY ANGER


Notices

It might be good to begin with notices. Please share from this week’s Church News.


Suggested opener/Ice-breaker

What has brought you joy in the news this week?


On Sunday Nev spoke about how we are to PURSUE LOVE AND PUT AWAY ANGER. Jesus taught,


I) DO NOT MURDER

“You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” (Matthew 5:21)

Recent killings in the news show us that anger and murder continue to have a huge impact on our lives. Jesus is making reference to the Sixth Commandment (Exodus 20:13; Deut. 5:18).


II) LOVE FULFILS THE LAW

As we saw last week, Jesus said,

“Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfil them.” (Matthew 5:17)

Jesus is showing us the true heart of this command is to value human life and pursue reconciliation. It seems that the Pharisees and teachers of the law were emphasising that murder was the important thing to avoid. However, God is interested in the heart because it's from the heart that the act of murder flows. Therefore, Jesus continues,

‘But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.’ (Matthew 5:22)

Jesus is taking the Old Testament and showing how it is to be applied in light of His coming. Jesus raises the standard – we are not to murder, but we are also to refrain from unrighteous anger. As Paul writes,

The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,”and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbour as yourself.”Love does no harm to a neighbour. Therefore love is the fulfilment of the law.’ (Romans 13:9-10)

Therefore, it's only as we are positive and actually pursue love, that we are actually keeping God's command as He intended. Christians are to take the initiative in pursuing love and peace (See 5:9). Jesus continues,

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift..." (Matthew 5:23-24)


Discussion questions

1. Did God speak to you about anything in particular from Sunday's message or the blogs this week?

2. Nev shared the difference between righteous and unrighteous anger; righteous anger is limited to 'anger at what makes God angry; it's anger that is rightly measured and controlled.' Do you struggle with unrighteous anger? If so, would you like to share any examples that might help the group?

3. James wrote,

'My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.' (James 1:19-20)

In light of this text, how does the Father want you to change?

4. Do you want prayer for anything?


Serving, Investing and inviting

The way we express anger and attempt reconciliation will be key in our witness for Jesus. Let's take a moment to share and pray about how we are serving, investing and inviting into our community.

1) Who has God put into your life that we could pray for together?

2) How are you planning to serve invest and invite?

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