#602 (17/5/22) LOVE IS NOT SELF-SEEKING
‘Love… is not rude (does not dishonour others), it is not self-seeking…’ (13:5)
We live in a self-obsessed culture. I don’t think that the human heart has got any more evil than it has ever been. However, the tools and the time to pursue selfish ends have certainly increased. We now take around 100 million selfies a day. The average millennial (Born 1982-2000) will take around 25,700 selfies in their life-time. We all have a tendency to narcism; I don’t know if you’re the same as me, but whenever I look at a photo the first person I normally look for is myself! How do I look? This is understandable, however, excessive attention to self can become very poisonous.
Self-seeking (zéteó) means to seek, search for, desire, require and demand our will. The ESV translates this: ‘It does not insist on its own way’ (ESV)
Rudeness, that we looked at yesterday, stems from being self-seeking; the self-seeking are rude because they speak, dress and serve their own interests so are rude and inconsiderate to others.
Selfishness follows from the previous aspects of love: If we are ‘envious’, ‘boastful’ and ‘prideful’, we will be rude and self-seeking. If we are full of ourselves and are seeking to raise our own status we will not be considerate of others in our speech, dress and service. We read:
‘Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God – even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.’ (1 Corinthians 10:33-34)