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  • Writer's pictureMatt Beaney

#757. LOVE AS WE WANT TO BE LOVED (23/2/23)

‘Jonah had gone out and sat down at a place east of the city. There he made himself a shelter, sat in its shade and waited to see what would happen to the city. Then the Lord God provided a leafy plant and made it grow up over Jonah to give shade for his head to ease his discomfort, and Jonah was very happy about the plant. But at dawn the next day God provided a worm, which chewed the plant so that it withered. When the sun rose, God provided a scorching east wind, and the sun blazed on Jonah’s head so that he grew faint. He wanted to die, and said, “It would be better for me to die than to live.” But God said to Jonah, “Is it right for you to be angry about the plant?” “It is,” he said. “And I’m so angry I wish I were dead.” But the Lord said, “You have been concerned about this plant, though you did not tend it or make it grow. It sprang up overnight and died overnight. And should I not have concern for the great city of Nineveh, in which there are more than a hundred and twenty thousand people who cannot tell their right hand from their left—and also many animals?” (Jonah 4:5-11)

Summary: God wants to teach us to love others as we would want to be loved.

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In the story of Jonah, God provides a plant that offers shade to Jonah and alleviates his discomfort. Jonah values the plant and is very happy about it. However, when God also provides a worm to destroy the plant, Jonah becomes angry. This plant serves as an object lesson for Jonah and for us, as it highlights Jonah's self-centredness. While Jonah is passionate about his own comfort and salvation, he does not share God’s concern for the potential judgement of Nineveh, a great city. This contrast reveals that Jonah does not love others as he wants to be loved himself.

It is natural for us to prioritise our own comfort and salvation, and most of us would admit to feeling happy when our own needs are met. However, it is also true that many of us struggle to show the same level of concern for the well-being and salvation of others. While we may become angry when our own lives are negatively affected, we may fail to empathise with the struggles of those around us. This lack of love can prevent us from praying for and seeking to save the lost.

When asked about the greatest commandments, Jesus answered:

“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40)

The principle of loving others as ourselves is reinforced in what is often called ‘The Golden Rule’ Jesus teaches:

‘Do to others as you would have them do to you. “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that.’ (Luke 6:31-33)


Jonah wants comfort for himself but he is not concerned for the salvation of Nineveh.

I'm sure that we would all want to be shown love by being forgiven, being shown patience, kindness in confrontation, generosity in times of need, prayerful support, notes of thanks or encouragement, and most importantly, someone to share the gospel with us if we were not a Christian. In small and large things, let’s keep seeking to do to others and we would want done to us.




It might be good to begin with notices. Please share from this week’s Church News.


What has God been speaking to you about from His Word this week?




Please read Jonah 4:5-11

The main purpose of God through the event of this book was to get Jonah to understand His compassion and grace. The main purpose of the book of Jonah for us is to get us to understand God’s grace and so show His compassion to the lost.


We all need to learn about the grace of God that is offered to us through Christ, which is necessary for our salvation. It is only when we realise that we are helpless sinners who deserve God's wrath but have received the gift of righteousness and eternal life in Christ that we can enter into the faith. Nevertheless, just as Jonah needed multiple lessons about God's mercy, we too need to continue learning more deeply about grace.

God uses various ways, even the likes of big fish and leafy plants, to teach us about His unconditional grace. For example, a challenging relationship puts our forgiveness to the test, and we realise that we are not as forgiving as we should be; as we allow negative thoughts and fears to consume us, we discover that we are not as convinced about grace as we thought we were. Oftentimes it’s the exemplary example of others’ mercy tower us that we learn. Nev, in his message on Sunday, gave the example of receiving gentleness instead of ‘wrath’ when he damaged the family car just after passing his driving test. Tim Keller wrote:

‘Most of us are like Jonah. We must have multiple exposures both to our need for God’s grace—which usually come through experiences of disappointment and failure—and to the gospel message. To get God’s love and Christ’s grace down into the motivational principles of our hearts, to the foundational layer of our identities, is a process, and often a slow one.’ (Keller, Timothy. The Prodigal Prophet)


We can all, I’m sure, empathise with Jonah’s angers. He’s been through a lot! This plant is an object lesson. God is teaching him about compassion. Jonah grieves the loss of this plant. Likewise, God grieves the loss of the heart of this city. A small worm destroyed the plant, so sin destroys lives and God is moved with compassion.

God wants us to be active in showing mercy in our words and works. We are to Serve, Invest and Invite (SIV) in the communities that God has put us into. We will only do this if we are filled with God’s compassion. Nev reminded us that as, at this time of year, we experience greater warmth from the sunshine, so, God, by the Spirit, is warming our hearts toward the lost.


Firstly, how can you and I regularly reflect on God's mercy?

This will lead us to, secondly, faithful, compassionate prayer.

Which, in turn, will lead, thirdly, to loving words and works in our communities (SIV)

In conclusion, I leave you with the words of Tim Keller, which I hope will be the ultimate outcome for all of us after having gone through this book::

‘If your compassion is going to resemble God’s, you must abandon a cozy world of self-protection. God’s compassion meant he could not stay perched above the circle of the earth and simply feel bad for us. He came down, he took on a human nature, he literally stepped into our shoes and into our condition and problems and walked with us.’ (Keller, Timothy. The Prodigal Prophet)


  • What was God teaching Jonah through this object lesson of the ‘leafy plant’?

  • In what ways had God shown mercy to Jonah through this letter?

  • Why will a remembrance of the grace of God keep us from pride and disdain?

  • How have you Served, Invested and Invited in your communities this week?

  • How have you got on with making a list and praying for your non-believing friends each day?

  • Let’s now pray for specific people that God has put on your heart and in your life.

  • Let’s pray for each other that the Spirit would fill us with His compassion this week.

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